Learn from a Child

Today is Children’s Day, but for many of us including me its just another day!!

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Morning, when I was making my Toddler all ready for children’s Day party some thoughts pondered over.

I thought its worth sharing. A few things which we can learn from a child.

  1. be fearless. You can try new experiences before you are fully prepared-

A child always take up the challenge. Kids don’t wait until someone suggests they are ready to remove the training wheels on their bike- they just hop on and see what happens. No one actually tells them that they have to take the first step they just hold, stand up and walk forward to reach their aim. On the contrary, one should be courageous enough to take challenges. In corporate, often we come across a situation where we have to provide a solution about an issue which we never expected or a situation which we have never faced. We focus more about the consequences rather than the solution.

  1. You don’t know everything. Don’t be shy and ask for help.

Often I see my little one trying hard to get something which is kept high up on the shelf. She tries hard, even stand on a chair but if she is not able to get it she asks for help. At that point she does not even shy away in asking a complete stranger for instance a domestic help or a guest at my place.

Similarly, in our work life we face some situations where we need support from our team member, a different team or a department. Sometimes we hesitate in asking but a simple ‘Please’ may save the time and stress in leaps and bounds.

  1. Scars are badges of honors.

All of us must have seen when a child gets hurt may be a scar after falling from a bicycle or getting hit by a ball while playing how proudly they show it to all. It’s not to gain sympathy but to show their strength. If a child breaks a bone, everyone they know will sign the cast. WE all have such scars on our body. Give a thought, have we stopped doing the task after we got hurt. Answer is a straightforward No. Infact we all have become perfectionist in those task now.

Then why are we afraid of failures now. We should learn from our mistakes more so because they are an early sign for us becoming a perfectionist.

  1. Be creative

Kids are most attracted towards creative projects-drawing, playing with clay, building a sandcastle with meticulous attention to detail. For some reason, as we get older, we stop seeing creative activities as worthwhile.

We should remember that Creativity is the freest form of self-expression. It helps us reduce stress and bring out the innovation and develops out of box thinking which is very much required in our field.

There are much more lessons to learn from the kids around us which all of us also exhibited when we were a kid.

So just keep the Little Child Alive in You!!!

On this note wishing you all a very Happy Children’s Day!!!


Happy just Another Day!!

They wished me “Happy Women’s Day!”

I asked, “Do you really care?”

They simply laughed at me as I passed their way, just to receive another stare.

I queried again, “What’s so special today?”

He was stunned as if I had said something rare.

He replied, “It’s your day, you should celebrate today.”

I enquired, “but what has changed today?”

Will there be no stare?

Will I get more respect and care?

Will I be appreciated before being judged?

Will someone stop my character getting smudged?

Will I be saved from the fear?

The fear I get all remaining days of the year.

He looked at me for another two minutes.

as I wished him, “Happy just another day!”, let’s talk business !!

Life-Yesterday & Today

I remember those days of childhood, when I used to watch the sky.

I felt like a bird then, which was soaring high.

Today when I see out, the sky is the same and so are the clouds

But I am no more a free bird to fly high throughout.

The wind blowing out calls me.

The fresh air asks me.

But I am captivated in this cold box,

where I am able to perceive but not able to talk.

The walls around me are transparent

But I am not able to see through them.

Huge cement trees surround me.

I feel I am caged and I have nowhere to flee.

The complete day I feel like a robot,

Working on keys that can’t open the doors,

the doors of my independence and my liberated mind.


I opened the door.

It was utter silence inside. Everything seemed dull and dark, I was tired.

I looked around frantically. My head was bumping hard.

I kept my things on the table and rushed to wash off my face.

Suddenly I felt a pull from behind.



As I turned she smiled and giggled and her laughter removed the evening darkness and killed the killing silence.

I took her in my lap, my life ,my seven months old little daughter. All my tiredness vanished seeing her beautiful face and we played till we slept.


The World around You


Breaking the news to your friends and family is not so difficult. Obviously the congratulations and wishes will flow in abundance but what will come like a flood is the suggestions and feedback, past experiences and examples. Some are interesting, some are funny, some beneficial, some can even create panic but ultimately when you share them you will laugh or smile atleast, like I am doing right now while writing the post.

Some people asked me- which doctor, which hospital? thats pretty much an obvious question unless you are sure you have some recommendations.

Some will confuse you like so and so happened in my pregnancy why not you are feeling the same.

Some will comment on your weight gain/ or no gain.

Some on your dressing style.Some will start suggesting on your next apparaels purchase ( can be helpful though)

The best one is guessing whether you will have boy or girl. Why are people so interested in the same? In India its still a taboo. All I wanted was a healthy baby then why be I so bothered and calculative.

While in the first trimester you may feel nauseated, may get back ache, tiredness and frequent urination, common throughout the pregnancy. There are many psychological changes as well, for instance mood swings. In this mood swings dealing with the suggestions sometimes take a toll and you burst out.

I will categorize the advises and suggestions into two- Myth and Dadi Maa ke nuskhe ( grand mom’s procedures)

Dadi Maa ke Nuskhe-

  1. Drink plenty of water, coconut water, fresh fruit juices( even doctor recommend so)
  2. Drink Milk daily atleast two times a day
  3. Have Makhanas
  4. have a protein and calcium rich diet
  5. Fresh Fruit Juice is a must have


  1. Eating Coconut will make your baby fair
  2. The way your belly looks determines the sex of baby
  3. More Glow means a baby girl
  4. You have sweet cravings means a girl baby

You search on internet you will find a lot more. We had a LOL moment when I did so. People are so crazy with their own superstitious believe and this is not only the case in India its all over the world.

Anyways you can also have that fun moment as its also proven the more happy mother is the more healthy child be.

Enjoy your motherhood and the fun related.


A unique Friendship

Ok, so here I start again. The thing I missed the most- writing. Phew!!!

Lot of my friends asked me whether I will blog again or I have dropped the idea. I used to tell them I would once I get time to rewind and relax.

Today after 6 long months of maternity break I am almost back to my old routine and the topic I chose to write today is related to Friendship and dedicated to a special group of people who I made friends during the beautiful phase of pregnancy.

Pregnancy is not really easy and the more difficult part is parenting. Its the phase in which you have all the apprehensions and doubts, silly questions in your mind, fear, excitement and dilemma surrounding day in and day out and to solve all this who can be your best companion? Of course, your better half, your family are the biggest support. But I consider myself  lucky to be part of a group with six other beautiful ladies who were also passing through the same phase.

A different experience altogether. A unique group which started on whatsapp with a mere intention of solving queries on medicals , doctors and scans related during pregnancy has now evolved in sharing joys, happiness, celebrations, complaints and problems.

We are seven ladies who became “Lucky Moms” (As the group name goes)all in Dec or Jan or early Feb. We discuss everything from babies to recipes to dresses to movies to interiors and decor. Thanks to Whatsapp .

I used to feel how digital our life has become but besides several disadvantages this one is a blessing because I always have six people around me to share and resolve my queries, with whom I share my happiness when my kid completes a month or I buy a new dress for her. Who I know will appreciate to my first attempt of cooking a dish, will support me in prayers and wishes if I ever have a problem, who have helped me in finding day care and nanny services and the list is never ending.A group who inspired each of us through their different life experiences. The beauty of the group doesn’t end here. We are diverse from South to North, from different cultural and religious background, we celebrate everything from monthly birthdays to anniversaries to festivals from Eid and Diwali to Christmas. This group has become like an extended family to me.

The 7 gorgeous ladies Gomz, Sumi, Shanu, Omi, Wasi , Ash and of course me would have never met otherwise if our kids would not have  been there. So Thanks to all little munchkins who unknowingly connected us into this beautiful bond which we all want to continue lifelong.

I always liked the idea of having a pen friend. It is working out now for me, as till date we have never met in person but we are planning to meet soon.

Thanks to all you people, that I never felt alone in any of my experiences of motherhood. I know where to turn when I am confused if my little one is cranky or if I have to try a new recipe on a free day. You people have added a unique unforgettable lifetime experience in my journey of becoming a mother and yes we are and we will be friends for lifetime.

Cheers to this new, unique friendship and Cheers to motherhood!!!

Like someone rightly said-“Good friends are like stars, you don’t always see them but you know they are always there!”

Book Review- Bhima


Title- Bhima: The Man in the Shadows

Author- Vikas Singh


Genre- History

The Blurb- I am half-man, half-superhuman. I am the mightiest warrior of my time. I have violated my dharma and murdered a man in cold blood. I have, single-handed, wiped out a whole generation of my kinsmen. I have committed acts of unspeakable brutality on the battlefield. I have done it all for the love of one woman. A woman who loves my brother.

I am Bhima, the second Pandava. This is my story. Possessed of amazing strength, fierce loyalty and great tenderness, Bhima as a character is almost always eclipsed by Yudhishtira and Arjuna. In spite of his many virtues, he is destined to be remembered as all brawn and biceps. Now, in Vikas Singh’s retelling of the Mahabharata, India’s greatest epic is narrated through the eyes of a hero who has never got his due. A fascinating account of a fascinating character-his extraordinary courage, his obsessive love for Draupadi, his deeply conflicted emotions about his brother, Arjun-this stunning work, written in a racy, entertaining style, provides the definitive answer to the question- What was it like to be Bhima?

My View- This Book talks about one of the most strong character of Mahabharatha- Bhima, the second brother among Pandavas. Bhima’s character has been sketched as a super human with extra ordinary strength and qualities but at the same time a very emotional, sensitive human being.

The author has portrayed the story of Mahabharata through the yes of Bhima. His childhood, His Love, His avenge for his lady Love -beloved wife-Draupadi. One side of the book shows Bhima as a man who is strong and intelligent, on the other side it shows a vulnerable side of his where sometimes he feel jealous, he acts like a stupid lover or he behaves like a man who wants love.

The complete story tells us how Bhima was the untold hero in the great epic. How he was always put under shadows yet he never complained or questioned. Though he was disliked by most because of his huge built yet he was always there to help and he always cared.

Though I felt certain parts in the character of Bhima was exaggerated but overall book forms an interesting read, to know more about  Bhima and his powers.

About the Author– Vikas Singh is a self-confessed word addict, who obsessively reads anything that comes his way, be it an old newspaper or the label on a cough syrup bottle. An Army kid, he spent most of his early life moving from one place to another, with books being his only constant companion. A love-affair that is on even today, with the repertoire varying from military history to Larry Gonnick’s cartoon histories and non-fiction to pulp fiction.

He pursued a degree in History Honours from St. Stephen’s College and then did a post-graduate diploma in Marketing Management before embarking on a career in journalism. But plots and stories continued to fire his imagination. Now a senior journalist, Vikas lives in Delhi with his wife and daughter, who are equally enthralled by literature, in a house which seems to have more books than furniture. Having previously co-authored a brief, breezy history of knowledge, The Know of Things, with Derek O’Brien, Jug Suraiya and Bunny Suraiya, Bhima is Vikas’s second novel, after the successful cricket thriller The Big Fix.

Final Verdict- I would recommend this book to all those who are interested to learn about characters in Mahabharata.The people who are interested in reading the epic tale from a completely different perspective. Overall I give 3.5 out of 5.